Well, I made it home! A source of great joy. It will be good to be here with my immediate family for a quiet Christmas. But, as with the anticipation, so too the homecoming had mixed emotions.
I was so excited when I woke up in hospital yesterday. I was full of longing for my discharge. I had a great consultation with my psychiatrist. ‘Midst peels of laughter (a great tonic) she was really pleased with my state of mental health and happy to discharge my into the care of the Home Treatment Team. So I waited, full of hope, for my wife to arrive to drive me home.
The journey was slow with lots of holiday traffic. Eventually we made it home to a warm welcome from our two cats. And so began the process of settling back into life at home.
It was lovely – gentle and warm and comforting. But, as the afternoon wore on, my mood dropped until I felt quite low and frightened. I hadn’t modulated like this for a few days. How irritating! Perhaps this wasn’t too surprising – it’s a big transition from the cocooned environment of a psychiatric hospital to one’s home. And the excitement of anticipation is bound to be followed by a dip. Nonetheless, it was quite frightening.
Despite the joy of seeing my son and daughter again, the downswing continued throughout the afternoon and evening. Exhaustion kicked in and I was glad to go to bed early. I aimlessly watched some Christmas TV but soon I was too tired for even that.
I tried to sleep but the big storm which was lashing the UK kept me awake with its terrifying noises. It was almost a metaphor for my mental health. Eventually, I succumbed to the welcome embrace of sleep.
I woke tired but feeling much brighter. After the darkness comes the dawn, and so goes the modulations of mental illness.
psychiatric hospital
Going home?
I’m full of mixed emotions today. All being well, I’ll be discharged from my psychiatric hospital tomorrow into the care of the Home Treatment Team. After 4½ weeks as a patient here in The Priory, it will be a great joy to go home, and in particular to be home with my family for Christmas. But, alongside the excitement, there is also the fear – the fear of coping alone without the specialist support of The Priory team around me.
Given that this is my second admission to The Priory, I had expected not to have this reaction. But, I have been taken by surprise.
Tee joy is very real and I can hardly contain my excitement. But the fear is real too. In part, it is because one begins to get institutionalised having spent a lengthy time in hospital. In part, it is the fear of losing the encompassing support of doctors, nurses and therapists. But in greater part, it is the fear of becoming unstable – of beginning to modulate again as I have done so much these last weeks.
The last few days, however, have been good days – glimpses of myself shining through. And I will have the backup of the Home Treatment Team and a wonderful family.
So tomorrow will be a step of faith. Faith in the skill of my psychiatrist and the power of my medication. Faith in the psychological tools I have learned. And faith in God – and what better time of year to be called upon to do that.
Medication time …..
As I write, it is medication time in my hospital ward. With echoes of ‘One flew over the cuckoo’s nest’ we all queue up (how very English) to receive our meds. It is an humbling experience.
From our disparate backgrounds, we are closely united as we wait to receive our meds. The bonds of friendship are genuine and intense. Rarely have I experienced such care and concern from people I’ve only known for a short time.
We chat openly about our meds, comparing their side effects and efficacy. We debate whether or not to take a Zopiclone (sleeping tablet) – we decide we will – sleep is essential to getting through tomorrow. Progress is slow – we each have a long prescription which needs to be carefully administered – but no one minds.
We talk about the day past, gently enquiring about each other’s struggles and celebrating each other’s progress. The atmosphere is gentle and deeply sincere. The openness and honesty are remarkable and a welcome contrast to the norms of daily life.
Eventually it is my turn at the dispensary. I am greeted warmly by the nurse who asks genuinely about my day and how I’m feeling. Then the large pot of drugs is prepared. I used to be very fearful of taking medication – now I submissively take what is given to me. No, submissive is the wrong word. I thankfully take the meds, aware of my brokenness and of my need of help, and trusting my psychiatrist’s skill and compassion.
With meds gratefully consumed, it is time to bid ‘night, night’ to one’s compatriots and to head to bed before the Zopiclone kicks in.
So ends another day in my psychiatric hospital – a day of triumphs and setbacks, of insights and frustrations. A day when the skill and care of psychiatrists, nurses, therapists and ancillary staff have carried me one step closer to wellness.
The kindness of strangers
Amidst all the emotions of being in a psychiatric hospital
– the highs and lows, the breakthroughs and the setbacks, the laughter and the tears – I have been most affected by one thing: the depth of compassion shown by staff for patients and by patients for each other. It has been staggering and has moved me to tears on more than one occasion.
The impact of these simple deeds of loving kindness on the recipients has been profound. Strangers thrown together by unfortunate circumstance offer themselves to each other in quite remarkable ways. Out of the depths of distress and the frailties of the human condition come transforming acts of generosity.
I like to consider myself a caring person, but I have been humbled, moved and challenged by what I’ve witnessed and the love I have myself received.
Those of us with a religious faith, will see in this the hand of the divine. But, whatever one’s worldview, one can simply rejoice in the very beauty of humanity. And say “thank you”.
Why double nutty?
It is essential to begin with an explanation, else doublenutty as a blog handle will seem bizarre and disrespectful.
A random picture of my ‘nutty’ cat
I suffer from bipolar disorder – a debilitating and frightening mental health condition. In fact, I am writing this from a psychiatric hospital where I am currently being treated for the second time. On a recent TV series, “Bedlam”, there was a beautiful moment when a confused old lady when asked what was wrong with her eventually remembered that she was bipolar and declaimed “that means that I am double nutty”. I immediately took her to my heart and loved her description of bipolar disorder. Since then, my bipolar friends and I have referred to ourselves as “double nutty”. Far from being disrespectful, we see this as an affectionate and empathetic descriptor. And so, it was inevitable that this should become my blog handle.
This is the first time that I have blogged, and I am hesitant, very hesitant. I am uncertain that I have anything original and worthwhile to say. But at the same time I am driven by an overwhelming conviction that I should talk openly about my condition and my experience of mental illness.
Whatever is claimed by society, there can be no denying that a significant stigma still surrounds mental illness. It seems to me, and all my peers in hospital, that we are duty bound to talk gently about our own experiences, in whatever form is natural and right for us, so that in time this stigma might be overcome.
So this blog is my own humble attempt to talk honestly and openly about ‘being bipolar’. Though you’ll notice I’m not yet being entirely open. This blog is still anonymous. Please forgive my reticence to put my name to my words. I’m still coming to terms with my diagnosis and it may take me a little while before I feel able to put my name to these idle ramblings. But please know that, though still cloaked in secrecy, these jottings are a sincere attempt to be honest about my experiences of bipolar disorder.
In my next post, I’ll summarise my bipolar journey to date and my experience of being hospitalised twice in the last 6 months. I hope, in some small way, this might give an insight into the experience of being bipolar.
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